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Why does no one ever flirt with ME?

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2 years ago
by Paul Bailey in

I used to date a guy who would constantly reveal to me moments when someone “cruised” him, or gave him a flirtatious look. I would drive me nuts. Not because I’m jealous, far from it. Much to my husband’s dismay, I don’t suffer jealousy anymore, I was cured of that debiliating disease many years ago, but that is another story!

What really annoyed me was to get cruised you have to be open to the visual signals that someone is interested. I’m the type of person that thought for ages that no one ever flirts with me when I’m walking down the street, or in my local suppermarket. Until I dated this guy and I realised what he was doing. He was actively checking out other people to watch their gaze and provide them with just enough visual feedback to elevate a casual glance into a flirtatous glance, smile or even a sexy flick of their eyebrows. I realised that it was a three way process

  • Person A looks at Person B
  • Person B returns the look and allows their eyes to linger just that bit longer than a glance. If they really want to enourage a response then even the inkling of a smile should be enough.
  • Person A either knowingly or subconciously notices Person B is receptive to a flirt and if they are inclinde will provide it.

As you can see from the above most of the work and manipulation is actually on the part of Person B. Now of course if Person A was particularly obnoxious then they need no encouragement at all. But hopefully you can see from the pattern of events that if you aren’t getting cruised, flirted with or just generally a bit of attention that you’d like, maybe think a bit about providing the visual feed back, or body lanugage that will encourage it!

So you want to do things the hard way?!

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2 years ago
by Paul Bailey in ,

Great!

Because coaching isn’t for wimps.

People often mistake coaching for an excuse to let someone else take the reigns. Letting your coach tell you where you went wrong and how to correct it. Giving you step by step instructions on how to make things in your life better beyond your wildest dreams! Just some of the coaches also subscribe to some more interesting concepts such as:-

  1. The Law of Attraction – where just simply thinking and wishing something to be true magically bends the universe into providing it. I’m all for postivite thinking and the benefits, but if you want to cross a busy road, you have to actually cross it, no amount of wishfull thinking with teleport you to the other side.
  2. Tapping your way to a better life – by repeated poking various parts of your face and body whilst repeating a string of enthusiastic statements will alter your thoughts and ultimately your reality.
  3. 5 Steps to becoming as rich and popular as me*. Well not me but someone who is willing to tell you everything you need to do for a fail proof systematized way of living. All for the life changing bargain price of just $497. But wait! You also get X, Y and Z completely FREE (Valued at $17,000).

Coaching is not a quick fix. It really does take time and a lot of hard work on the clients part to make some significant life changes. Your coach will challenge, test and double check that you have really thought about and talked through your chosen subject. So before taking out any kind of coaching, you will have to ask yourself:-

Do I really want to change?

Ultimately only the client can put into action the plans that your coach will help you design. So if you aren’t absolutely sure about wanting this change it’s unlikely that having a coach will or even should try to convince you otherwise.

A coach can help you with the motivation, planing, scheduling, goal setting, brain storming and provide you with the space in which you can let your creativity run wild.

So do you want change bad enough or are you already feeling that you would just rather put up and settle?

Life Coaching

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3 years ago
by Paul Bailey in ,

Are you thinking about getting a coach?

Have you been coached in the past?

Are you a coach and either self-coach or do you have your own coach?

I’d love to hear about your experiences and thoughts on coaching. As a life coach myself I tend to self-coach more often than not however when I have had the chance to be coached by someone else I’ve always come away feeling that I’ve discovered something new and exciting in myself and a renewed sense of direction. Breaking down the unmanageable into the achievable never ceases to amaze me. Coaching also gives you the chance to review and reflect what could have gone better but more importantly what did go well! All too often it’s easier to get wrapped up in the troubles that we have endured rather than celebrating the success and the achievements.

Let me know what are your experiences and results from coaching.

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