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@lifecoach but how do I stop being a natural mystery guts and be happy?!?

11 January, 2012 19:48 pm via Twitter for iPhoneReplyRetweetFavorite

@AbandonedBear

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After my last post on happiness being a choice I received this tweet. I love a challenge, and I love the typo too it makes it far more interesting.

1. Be Optimistic: The world isn’t against you, even though it feels like that sometimes. Recognise that what happened in your past doesn’t mean the future has to be the same. Instead of thinking about why things are happening to you, focus on what you are going to do to get things back on track. No one expects you to be overly positive all the time, pretending that everything is perfect. So just accept when you are having a bad day, or you’re in a crabby mood. It’s happens.
2. Trust your instincts. In a study, two groups of people were asked to pick out a poster to take home. One group were asked to analyse their decision carefully, weighing the pros and cons, and the other group were told to go with their gut reaction. Two weeks later, the group that followed their instinct were happier with their posters than the group that analysed their decisions.
3. Make enough money to meet your basic needs: food, shelter, and clothing. More importantly spend less than you earn. Material items only provide short-term happiness, where as experiences and the memory of them last a lifetime.Stay close to friends and family. By keeping a small close-knit circle of friends and family it’s easier to keep in touch. Give time to the people who will be there when you need them most, rather than “fair weather friends”.
4. Find happiness in the job you have. Many people expect the right job or the right career to dramatically change their level of happiness, but from personal experience, most of my clients that came to me with work issues ended up working them out and staying in their job, rather than moving on.
5. Smile. Whether you feel happy or not, your mood will be elevated. So smile all the time!
6. Laugh a lot. It’s fairly well known that laughing releases natural endorphins. There are even classes you can take to exercise those laughter muscles!
7. Forgive. Holding a grudge takes up a lot of time and energy. In a study, it was found that an attitude of forgiveness also contributed to better cardiovascular health.
8. Make friends who share your interests, if you don’t know any make a special effort to join a club or online forum. If none exist then create your own, chances are there are many people out there with the same interests as you.
9. Give lots of compliments. I use this one a lot in my coaching. The act of giving compliments teaches you a lot about how people react. What works well and what doesn’t. More importantly also teaches you how to receive compliments.
10. Perform acts of kindness anonymously. Just the knowledge that you did something to make someone else’s life just a little bit easier is bound to put a smile on your face.
11. Look after your health, stretch yourself physically and get plenty of sleep. A tired, sick and inactive body certainly isn’t going to do anything for your confidence, self-esteem or happiness.
12. Don’t “treat” feeling down. These treats are normally bad for you and the pleasure lasts only a few minutes. You may think that feeling better for a few minutes is good enough, but then you’ll have to deal with the guilt later, adding to your woes.
13. Do something creative. There’s nothing more satisfying than creating a drawing, doing some writing or creating something out of bits and pieces. Even if it’s not very good, it’s yours.
14. Keep a diary. Another one I use in my coaching all the time. This is a great way to externalise the annoying inner voice that likes to tell us that things won’t work out the way we want them to. By getting these worries out and down on paper, it allows your inner voice to let go and it begins to get quieter.
15. Reduce your exposure to negative news stories. The media LOVES a bad news shocker, if it’s really important your friends and family will talk about it. Get your “news” from blogs or special interest websites that you can subscribe to instead.
16. And last but certainly not least! Practice…….. practice…….. practice!