Paul G Bailey
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Group Confidence Coaching
01 week ago
The group coaching sessions are already back in action after a break over December. Our next meetup in 21 Feb at 7pm in Victoria. If you’re interested in coming along then you’ll need to register over at http://www.meetup.com/Confidence-Building-for-Gay-Men
Places are VERY limited, so make sure you get a place by booking up quickly!
Press Release: “Confidence Building for Gay Men” Meetup Now Forming in London
01 year ago
by Paul Bailey
in General
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Contact:
Paul Bailey
Gay Confidence Coach
Phone: 0845 388 3218
Skype user ID: pgbailey
Email: meetup (at) gayconfidencecoach.com
Web: www.gayconfidencecoach.com
“Confidence Building for Gay Men” Meetup Now Forming in London
Paul Bailey, Gay Confidence Coach, Will Offer Strategies
For Building Self-Assurance and Self-Esteem
London, [22 April 2010]—“There’s a common misconception that all gay men are oozing self confidence,” says Paul Bailey, the UK’s Gay Confidence Coach. “This is not always true.”
In response to the need for self-assurance among gay men, Bailey, a noted life coach, facilitates a Meetup.com group called “Confidence Building for Gay Men.” The meetings take place in central London, near the Liverpool Street Station, on the second Thursday of each month at 7:00 p.m.
Meetup.com offers group meetings in locations around the world, enabling participants with common interest to join groups and interact for mutual benefit.
Participants at Paul Bailey’s “Confidence Building for Gay Men” Meetup learn to build self-confidence via visualisation, breathing, and positive association exercises, as well as through body language adjustments, verbal communication techniques, and sharing experiences with other group members.
Bailey explains, “At this Meetup, gay men have the opportunity to meet with like-minded men interested in personal growth, confidence building, and sharing insights into their own journey of personal development.”
Group members have high praise for Paul Bailey’s previous Meetups.
One participant notes, “I found Paul to be very effective at creating a safe and welcoming space. He was skilled at exploring the issues I raised and at summarising what I had said.”
Another attendee shares the enthusiasm: “This meeting was very effective at helping me to get clarity in an area that I have been struggling with for years. I was able to focus on core issues, clarify what was holding me back, and set out a plan for how to take action.”
Still another reports, “If you are a gay man who would like to work on building your confidence, then this is exactly designed for you!”
Those eager to move behind old patterns and step into a new, more confident, and more successful life should be sure to attend these stimulating meetings. For the exact Meetup location, e-mail meetup@gayconfidencecoach.com or phone 0845 388 3218.
About Meetup:
Meetup.com is the world’s largest network of local groups. Meetup.com makes it easy for anyone to organize a local group or find one of the thousands already meeting up face-to-face. More than 2,000 groups get together in local communities each day, each one with the goal of improving themselves or their communities.
Meetup’s mission is to revitalize local community and help people around the world self-organize. Meetup believes that people can change their personal world, or the whole world, by organizing themselves into groups that are powerful enough to make a difference.
About Paul Bailey:
Paul Bailey (www.gayconfidencecoach.com), the UK’s “Gay Confidence Coach,” is an out and proud gay man who helps people add meaning and confidence to their personal and professional lives. Trained at The Coaching Academy, the world’s largest life-coaching school, Paul delivers his coaching expertise through face-to-face individual or group sessions, as well as by telephone and online. Paul’s clients come from diverse backgrounds, including from the worlds of art, business, and academia on both sides of the Atlantic.
Paul’s unique and upbeat approach to life coaching enables each individual to verbalise ideas, goals, and dreams; to explore options; to develop effective directions and plans; and to move forward at a comfortable-yet-productive pace—and all without ever feeling judged or criticised. The result is that Paul’s clients are empowered to focus on possibilities and to achieve maximum fulfilment and success in all aspects of their lives.
Follow Paul Bailey on Twitter at http://www.twitter.com/lifecoach
For additional information, visit http://www.meetup.com/Confidence-Building-for-Gay-Men/
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Confidence Group Coaching
01 year ago
by Paul Bailey
in Blog
Due to one of the members having to go abroad for a few days there is now one space available for my next Gay Confidence Building group meetup in central London.
If you would like to come along just pop over to the Meetup.com website and register
These sessions are limited to just 4 members per group, so places are REALLY LIMITED!
I look forward to welcoming you soon!
http://www.meetup.com/Confidence-Building-for-Gay-Men/
Keeping motivated with Why?
02 years ago
I find going to the gym 5 times a week for just 30-45 minutes the optimum schedule for me. Now I realise this sounds like a awful lot! But remember it’s not for a very long time each visit.
I came to this routine through some trial and error and some honest conversation with my internal voice. Firstly I tried to go 3 times per week, which is the recommended amount to gain benefit. However, the problem I found is that I would wake up in the morning and decide to have a rest day, promising myself I would make up for it tomorrow. By the end of the week I would be lucky if I had made it to the gym once or twice. I would end up feeling bloated and frustrated.
So the time came for some honest internal dialogue. Why, why, why!?
Questions that start with a why, usually require the answer to start “because”. During a coaching session, this can cause the client to subconsciously feel that they are having to justify themselves. So as I coach I try to avoid asking these types of questions unless I specifically want to explore with the client’s the true reason for their desire to achieve something.
Here is how my internal Why conversation went:-
- Why do I want to go to the gym? – Because it’s good for me.
- Why is it good for you? – Because to strengthens your body and more importantly for me, my heart.
- Why more importantly for you?- Because my mother died from a heart attack at 45
- Why is that age resonating with you? – Because I have just turned 39 and I now realise how young 45 really is!
- Why else is going to the gym important? – Because my father has vascular dementia, so watching my weight, cholesterol and keeping fit will help me avoid suffering from the same condition.
- Why else is going to the gym going to benefit you? – It will help me keep in shape, which will help my confidence levels.
- Why are your confidence levels so important to you? – Erm I’m a confidence coach, so if I can’t keep my confidence up how can I expect my clients to!
So now, I go to the gym 5 times a week. It’s the right balance for me because I just do it every weekday and have the whole weekend to relax and recover. By using the power of “why” I was also able to add weight to the importance so that I kept understanding some of reason for going to the gym.
MeetUp.com
02 years ago
by Paul Bailey
in Blog
In conjunction with my podcasting friends I’ve have begun to arrange a meet up in central London. If you are around the area on the 19th November why not come along and meet other like minded people interested in personal development and growth!
http://www.meetup.com/actionpodcast
Horribly Motivated!
02 years ago
by Paul Bailey
in Blog
The two days off seem to have had an overwhelming effect. This morning I snapped back into my routine of going to the gym at 6:30am (yes I know, mad, barking mad). In to work on time (ish) powered through my first conference call which seemed to go really well.
It’s resulted in me feeling incredibly motivated and energised. Or maybe someone spiked my coffee, not sure.
Whatever it is, I’m sure the two extra days off REALLY helped. It does make me think that sometimes you don’t have to go away to have a break. I just stayed at home and caught up on all the fun things I wanted to do. Surprisingly very little of that time was spent playing of World of Warcraft. Maybe another reason for feeling so motivated was I was doing fun things that were a little more productive than seeing how much gold I could make on the Auction House!
I also finished editing and published two more podcasts for my coaching site. It’s so great to see something like that growing into something bigger that just me, myself and I. It’s really taking on a life of it’s own which makes it a real joy to be part of. Feel free to tune in at http://www.actionpodcast.com (yes I know shameless plug, but don’t tell anyone)
FAQ
04 years ago
Also known as Frequently Asked Questions. (FAQ is pronounced FACS)
I often get asked by new clients what’s normal for clients….
1: How often do they have a coaching session?
2: Do they meet for coaching or is it over the phone?
3: How long are the sessions?
4: How many sessions should I have?
5: What subjects can I be coached on?
6: What should I expect from my coach?
7: What does my coach expect from me?
8: How do I pay for coaching sessions?
The answer to pretty much all of these questions any probably a few more that you are think of is…………… it varies
Slightly more detailed answers are
1: Clients usually start being coached on a weekly basis. After a while, once all the smaller immediate issues have been addressed, the client often finds if more suitable to adjust the time between sessions to a longer period, either every other week or monthly. This is because after the first few sessions, clients like to tackle much more complicated issues that simply take longer to resolve. At this stage, having weekly sessions often doesn’t give the client enough time to actually complete the goal they have set themselves. Also they sometimes say that they know what it is they have to do now it’s just a case of doing it!
2: Most coaching is completed over the telephone. In fact this tends to be more effective than a face to face session. Face to face sessions requires you to attend a location at a certain time, which you may not be custom to travelling to. This causes undue stress and worry about arriving on time, being able to find the location and combine that with the added travelling time to and from the location, your normal 45 minute coaching session suddenly takes over 2 hours. With all the extra time and worry wrapped up in a face to face meeting you should see now why telephone coaching works better. It can be achieved anywhere, at your office at home or where ever you need to be. With no travelling time, your 45 minute coaching session really does take 45 minutes. So you can easily plan around your session to avoid unnecessary interruption to your daily schedule. I can of course provide face to face sessions, but personally I would recommend just the one session and preferably not the first one either.
3: The telephone coaching sessions last 45 minutes. I try my best to stick as close to the 45 minutes as possible so that you know exactly when you will be free to carry on with your normal daily schedule. Longer sessions can be arranged if required.
4: The number of sessions is completely up to the client. One off sessions can be a good boost but to really see some results 4 sessions are suggested minimum. After 4 sessions then you should review your coaching requirements with your coach and decide if you need to change the frequency and/or duration of the sessions.
5: Most of my clients start with work/life balance issues and then move on to a variety of subjects from confidence to stopping smoking and weight loss. It really can be anything. It’s important that you feel comfortable about your chosen subject and as you progress through your sessions you will find it easier to select subjects that you do wish to be coached on.
6: You should expect absolute confidentiality from your coach. Also expect that your coach will never give you advise or their opinion on your chosen subject. Your coach will challenge you and feed back to you some of the things that you have said, acting as a sounding board in this way your coach will become a virtual mirror allowing you to see yourself and your life from a different point of view.
7: Your coach will expect you to have taken time out prior to any session to relax and clear your thoughts a little. Also you should be ready to make notes of anything that interests you during the session. Honestly is paramount, if you say one thing but in your head you are saying something different, tell your coach that you are having a two way conversation. This often produces the most powerful and effective sessions as it allows you to clear your mind of any internal dialogue that has previously stopped you from achieving your goals. Often your coach will even pick up on this before you do and will challenge you to reveal any doubts that you are having on your chosen subject.
8: All coaching sessions are paid in advance. The easiest way for most people is PayPal. Good old fashioned cheques and also direct bank transfers are also possible.
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