Yahoo answers really is becoming a bit of a mission of mine. Almost daily I find myself reaching out to people there who just need a little bit of support, guidance and confidence. Once again I was flattered to have received the “Best Answer” vote from this young girl.

I don’t know what to say ?

I think I’m falling in love with someone and she likes me back and I’m terrified..

She sent me a really long really kind letter and I am frozen to the spot, because I don’t know how to reply and I don’t want to lose her

She’s so honest and open and I don’t know how to return that favour..I close up into a shell

I responded with the following:-

I'm so pleased for you, finding someone you like that likes you back can be a real challenge. But when it does happen you can find your emotions over flowing. Terrified is just one of those emotions, so have a think about what other emotions you are experiencing. Joy? Happiness? Love?

If you just focus on being terrified then that is all you will be able to feel.

You may be in a bit of a stunned shock right now, so think about it from another point of view to make it easier to handle. What would the girl be feeling right now? What is she hoping your reaction would be?

Take a pen and paper and write the following words:-
"Thank you so much for your letter"

Then just keep on writing, just let your emotions run free. You don't have to send this letter. It's just for you to get your thoughts out and clear. I'm a gay confidence coach so I deal with this type of issue all the time. 

You then have a few options once you have completed the exercise above. 
1 send the letter as it is
2 rewrite a new letter now your thoughts are more clear
3 use the letter as a reminder of your feelings and then call her on the phone ( this can be a good way to reduce fear as they aren't actually with you)
4 when you next see her, thank her for her letter and invite her out for coffee, but let her know, it's because you feel the same.

I hope this helps!

All the best

Paul 
PS let me know how you get on!

What advice would you give a girl in this situation?