Why does no one ever flirt with ME?
I used to date a guy who would constantly reveal to me moments when someone “cruised” him, or gave him a flirtatious look. I would drive me nuts. Not because I’m jealous, far from it. Much to my husband’s dismay, I don’t suffer jealousy anymore, I was cured of that debiliating disease many years ago, but that is another story!
What really annoyed me was to get cruised you have to be open to the visual signals that someone is interested. I’m the type of person that thought for ages that no one ever flirts with me when I’m walking down the street, or in my local suppermarket. Until I dated this guy and I realised what he was doing. He was actively checking out other people to watch their gaze and provide them with just enough visual feedback to elevate a casual glance into a flirtatous glance, smile or even a sexy flick of their eyebrows. I realised that it was a three way process
- Person A looks at Person B
- Person B returns the look and allows their eyes to linger just that bit longer than a glance. If they really want to enourage a response then even the inkling of a smile should be enough.
- Person A either knowingly or subconciously notices Person B is receptive to a flirt and if they are inclinde will provide it.
As you can see from the above most of the work and manipulation is actually on the part of Person B. Now of course if Person A was particularly obnoxious then they need no encouragement at all. But hopefully you can see from the pattern of events that if you aren’t getting cruised, flirted with or just generally a bit of attention that you’d like, maybe think a bit about providing the visual feed back, or body lanugage that will encourage it!
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